Book Review: ’12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos’ by Jordan B. Peterson

I don’t usually read books like this but it was given to me by a friend. I then realized that Jordan Peterson was the guy that was supremely hated and protested by all the college kids that want the entire world to be a “safe zone”.

After reading this, I’m not sure why all the weirdos of college campuses hate the guy. I guess it’s because he’s trying to show you how to succeed at life and make something out of yourself instead of being a leech baby sucking society’s chaffed tits while crying that everything is unfair, racist, sexist, hard, tough and too dependent on intelligence and good work ethic.

Overall, this is a pretty good book. It took me a long time to get through it, as I don’t usually read stuff like this.

It also features some art by Ethan Van Sciver, even though they spelled his name wrong on the credits page. For those that don’t know, he’s another guy that crybaby pussies hate because he calls them out on their bullshit.

This is a pretty shitty book review. But the book isn’t shitty.

Far from it.

These things just typically bore me to tears but that’s because I have little time to read books and when I do, I want them to be about something I want to learn.

I pretty much already know how not to suck at life. So here are my “13 Rules for Life” because I prefer baker’s dozens.

1. Don’t be a little bitch about everything.
2. Treat people with respect.
3. Don’t surround yourself with fucking shitheads.
4. Eat some damn fruit and vegetables once in a while.
5. Fuck stuff, especially attractive stuff.
6. Don’t make excuses or blame the universe when you suck.
7. Don’t worry about “likes” on social media, it’s not 2008 anymore, grow up.
8. Maybe exercise a bit more.
9. Don’t walk around town like a sad, frumpy asshole.
10. Don’t start shit you won’t finish.
11. Be fucking charitable, not a selfish twat.
12. Be the rock for others in the way you hope they’ll be the rock for you.
13. Learn what words like “loyalty” and “gratitude” actually mean and understand them.

See, it’s simple stuff.

The end. And bitch… you’re welcome!

Rating: 8/10
Pairs well with: other motivational, self-help, positive thinking, go get’em books.

Retro Relapse: Bitch, You Ain’t 21!

RETRO RELAPSE is a series of older articles from various places where I used to write before Talking Pulp.

*Written in 2014.

By the title of this piece, you are probably assuming that it is about teen girls trying to sneak into the bar to party with the big boys. Well, you’re wrong. In fact, I am talking about the whole other end of the spectrum. I’m talking about girls in their mid-thirties (or older) that still act and behave like they’re 21 year-olds who have only been able to drink just recently.

C’mon, you know the girls I’m talking about. The ones who show up at the bar, ready to rumble but wearing classier clothes than their early 20s counterparts and order somewhat classier drinks – usually something in a stemmed glass, as opposed to brightly colored fruity shots. They down martinis like a marathon runner grabbing for waters. They dance pretty uncoordinated but do a good job of keeping their balance for the first ten minutes until they break a heel. They also look like a drunk aunt when they hit on the 21 year-old unkempt fellow wearing a hat in a nice club while sipping on a Miller Lite. They are overly impressed with almost any form of flattery. They start handing out their business cards to everyone, even if you aren’t interested in buying a house from them or going to see the dermatologist they work for. Many of them hit a point in the night where they transform into werewolves howling at the moon and shredding everything in sight. Some of them smell like a mixture of Princess Night and cat piss. They are essentially cougars in training that will fail to reach full cougarhood. Instead, they will become the lonely and crazy cat ladies of modern urban folklore.

I get that life is hard and you like to party hard, I’m right there with you. The thing is, when you hit that late 20s mark and going into your 30s, things need to change. Behaving like you did when you were a bar newbie over ten years ago is not only sloppy and unattractive, it is also a clear sign of someone with problems that no real and mature guy is going to want to deal with. If you’re complaining that you can’t find a decent man but you regularly exhibit behavior like this, you are most likely going to continue to struggle with that. No one wants to deal with a drunken mess every time the bar is open. I say this to help and this is coming from someone who has been a drunken mess many times in his day. I’ve also evolved.

You’ve been doing this long enough that you should know your drinking capabilities and your limitations. You should also have enough self-respect to not publicly transform into an insane wildebeest dancing like an epileptic jellyfish while puking on barstools and sweating like a fat man in a buffalo wing eating contest. You’re also making yourself look like easy pickin’s for the date rapists and molly ninjas.

This behavior isn’t going to lead to anything good. Whether it is the quality of man you’ll potentially attract, the DUI you might get or the health problems that will eventually occur, life will never be your bitch. In fact, you will be life’s bitch. The hardcore “fuck it all to hell, let’s party” schtick will do the exact opposite of solving your woes. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have fun and let loose but you shouldn’t make it your life’s mission. You’ve got to have balance and control. And again, you should already know your limitations.

Additionally, all those spin classes mean jack shit when you’re bathing in martinis all night, every night. Also, you are aging really fast. Botox all you want but Joan Rivers looks like a plastic nightmare.

Now being in my mid-30s, I’ve learned the hard way that the body changes and one’s recovery time and ability to bounce back is nowhere near where it was in your 20s. While having a more established life and a real job to go to on a daily basis, I have to plan accordingly. This means no more weeknight trips to clubs or bars out of town, pulling an all night binger, only to have to be back at my desk and functional by 9 a.m. I’ve seen too many people my age get fired from good jobs because they can’t adapt and evolve passed their “party hard” nature.

Earlier, I mentioned the quality of mates one would attract exhibiting these traits. In most cases, women like this take home that young guy, which sounds pleasing to some but ultimately, he just wants to fuck you and will tolerate your bullshit as long as he is getting laid. The truth is, and as you all should know, most of these young guys won’t stick around very long and while the action is good, you’re left empty and back to square one. It’s a cycle that won’t end until you break it. I also see many girls taking home dudes in their 20s that they wouldn’t have even talked to when they were in their 20s. As time goes on, they downgrade their game and bring home guys they previously wouldn’t have given the time of day. And the ones that do stick around are usually emasculated lapdogs that will put up with your shit and take your abuse but they’ll never give you the fulfillment of actually being with a man. In fact, once you cheat on them, in front of them, they’ll probably just put on their headphones and cry to Snow Patrol.

The harsh reality is that there comes a time in life where you need to grow the fuck up or get left the fuck behind.

Retro Relapse: The Failure of Modern Relationships

RETRO RELAPSE is a series of older articles from various places where I used to write before Talking Pulp.

*Written in 2014.

I may not be the best person to talk about relationships, as most of mine have been short-lived, existed in spurts or were an insane adventure that had to end for my own survival. The subject I am talking about here though, isn’t the reason for any of my relationships ending, at least not from my side of the equation. It is more of an observation I see in the behaviors of people and something I’ve discussed at great length with friends lately.

I see the relationships of many of my friends and acquaintances lose steam quickly and end pretty abruptly. Many times, the couple looks incredibly happy and everything seems to be peachy. All of a sudden, almost out of nowhere, there is a rift which almost always leads to a pretty quick exit from one partner or both. Relationships themselves are becoming a lot like speed dating but in a broader, slightly more long-term sense.

I can’t count how many times a friend has come to me and told me, “Hey, I think I’m going to end it.” I ask why and I get responses like, “I hate that she does this or that” or “We have different paths for our future.” Sorry, but for the most part, that’s weak and I see a lot of these assessments as bullshit. Rarely, do I hear legitimate things like, “She is a complete psycho” or “He’s a violent asshole.” No one can argue with those things, well unless they seem uncharacteristic of the person being profiled and the one saying it is either a “psycho” or “asshole” themselves.

Why do I think statements like the ones above are weak bullshit? Well, if you are committed to someone, the road isn’t always going to be easy. Relationships are a road that two people take together. Sometimes the road can be rocky. It doesn’t mean that you bail at the first sign of turbulence. The strongest relationships are the ones that take the rocky road together and come out on the other side, hand-in-hand. People seem like they are way too eager to quit before anything even gets to this point. “Aw man, she’s got an asshole baby daddy. I don’t even want to meet that dude, so I’m out. I can’t have that shit in my life. I just wanna play Titanfall and fuck, brah!”

There’s also the impatience factor. Everyone wants instant gratification and everything has to be “Now! Now! Now!” and about “Me! Me! Me!” Fuck all of that. Real relationships and long-lasting bonds take time. That old adage about how a relationship is always the best in the very beginning is bullshit but people seem to hold that ideal pretty strongly. I’ve seen a lot of good people toss other good people to the side pretty easily, when things weren’t as magical as they seemed in the beginning.

The two best relationships I was ever in, took time. One relationship took seven-to-eight years before we realized where we had come together, the other took four-to-five years before we had an incredible bond, a tremendous amount of respect and a lot of love for one another. We split up but that came after a good year of really debating if it was best for both of us because we had an almost inseparable bond. It was a really hard decision but it came with a lot of thought and a lot of respect.

If two people become married, their respect and love for each other should magnify. Theoretically, they shouldn’t be holding on to such impatience and lack of tolerance for one another. The essence of marriage is about choosing a life-partner. “Life”, as in for your entire life going forward. Nowadays, people get married young or quickly, as they make decisions at what appears to be the height of their still new relationship. Ultimately, most marriages today, fail. I don’t know why people expect instant gratification in something that is supposed to last a lifetime. “I want a baby now before it’s too late, but he won’t be ready for another year due to school.”

So to all the failed married people out there that left over something really kind of trivial, was it worth ending the whole thing because you wanted instant gratification and instead of being patient, threw it all away to start from scratch again? Seems like a big waste of time to me but this mentality also brings me to another point: selfishness.

Everyone is selfish to a degree, it is human nature. Some people are completely selfish and don’t care how their behavior and attitude affects other people, as long as they get what they want. These assholes should never get married. They expect the world to bow to them and a partner to obey and respect their wishes while they don’t do the same. A real relationship clusterfuck is when two of these monsters get together. Unfortunately, these monsters are in abundance.

I just don’t get the urge to rush and get married. Why rush? You have your whole lives to be together if that’s the person you truly want to be with. There is absolutely never a reason to rush into it, unless your partner is going to get deported or something.

The problem I see today, is that people are just so quick to quit. This isn’t even just with relationships. People are quick to quit their friends, their jobs, a task, a diet, a workout regimen and pretty much everything else. I’m guilty of it too, as I’ve struggled with my weight for several years. This doesn’t make you a bad or shitty person but when someone else is involved, like in a relationship, the game changes. It isn’t just about you when you quit.

Look, people evolve – they change. The same happens to people in relationships. Some couples grow together and some grow apart, that’s only natural. When two people do grow apart, dissolving the relationship isn’t necessarily a bad thing. However, growing in different directions doesn’t mean that it’s the end either. I’ve seen several couples thrive because of their contrast to one another. Those are the people that have survived the hard shit and still stick together because despite their differences, their respect and love transcends it all. The one thing they have in common is each other. How can you ever have something that strong with someone, if you quit the second you encounter a bump in the road?

You should never stay in a bad or unhealthy relationship. However, you also shouldn’t be looking for constant signs that you’re in a bad or unhealthy relationship. You also shouldn’t simply bail out at the first sign of trouble. Your formula is weak and you will never find happiness this way, other than in small bursts in a string of short-lived relationships that seemingly never evolve or go anywhere.

Life isn’t a cakewalk. So what makes you think that love should be?

Retro Relapse: Be A Man By Being Your Own Man

RETRO RELAPSE is a series of older articles from various places where I used to write before Talking Pulp.

*Written in 2014.

I write about manliness a lot on here. It seems to be a topic not only popular with men but also women. In fact, I find more positive responses from the ladies than the guys on some of the things I write. It seems like manliness is in short supply and men and women are wishing that there was more of it to go around in the modern era.

There are a lot of blogs, websites, books and other media that thrive on the subject of manliness, what it is and how dudes should embrace it and employ it. The truth is, there are a lot of opinions about what a man is and how he should behave and carry himself. Different sources say different things and to take it all in can be confusing, as there are a lot of contradictions depending upon where you chose to get your information from.

I read a lot of the stuff out there. I agree with a lot but I disagree with a lot more. However, my opinion, as well as the opinions of those I am reading, is all subjective. I outlined what I really think it takes to be a man with my post Misconceptions of Manliness. I wanted to expand on some of what I said there though.

In it, I outlined what character traits a man should have above all other things. I can talk about beards and sports and steaks and booze and cigars and knives and all types of “manly” shit but none of that stuff makes a man. A man is what his character is. One of the best traits a man can have, in my view, is not giving a fuck about what other people think. Before that is taken to an extreme, let me elaborate.

By not giving a fuck, I don’t mean to be an asshole and look at those who disagree with you or offer criticism as useless assholes. Often times criticism and others’ opinions can be beneficial. A man doesn’t walk around with a holier than thou attitude, looking down at everyone else as some sort of lesser being. When I say a man shouldn’t give a fuck, that’s in reference to the negativity and the haters out there. And just because you don’t give a fuck, doesn’t mean that you need to be a douchebag about it.

The thing is, not everyone is going to like you. Being universally loved isn’t possible and you have to recognize that – the sooner, the better. Again, this isn’t a license to be an asshole. The point is, you can’t be negatively effected or hindered by the shit that those people say. Many assholes are just being douchebaggy because they are miserable people – negative husks with nothing going for them other than trying to hold others down. You shouldn’t give a fuck what these people think or say.

However, you should also be able to realize the difference between the good people and the assholes and where their feedback is coming from, whether it is a good place or a bad place. If you’re not sure about someone yet, take what they say with a grain of salt. On the flip side, it also doesn’t mean that you have to take everything that the good people say to heart. Analyze the information and do with it what you will because good people can also give bad critique and advice.

You can’t go through life overly concerned with others’ opinions. There comes a point where you have to find enough confidence in yourself that you know how to steer your own ship. When there, it doesn’t mean that you don’t listen, it just means that you know where you are headed, who you are and does the feedback your getting enhance that or go against it? That’s the question we should all ask ourselves: men and women.

Going back to the different views of what manliness is and how you should be, you should really apply the not giving a fuck rule. Everyone has their opinion on what a man is and how you should apply it. Fuck them. Who do you think you should be and what is a man to you? There isn’t some man factory pumping out templates for all of us guys to jump into. Besides, in my opinion, just following what someone else tells you to do isn’t the action of a man anyway.

Retro Relapse: New Year? New You? Keep It Simple

RETRO RELAPSE is a series of older articles from various places where I used to write before Talking Pulp.

*Written in 2016.

Resolutions are stupid and 99.9% of us fail at keeping them. They are too extreme and come with too much pressure. And then we beat ourselves up over some impossible task that we were so certain we would do before coming to the realization that we underestimated the difficulty of the change or we just didn’t think it through well enough.

I don’t make New Year’s resolutions. I haven’t since high school, when it was pretty much customary to return to class after winter break and tell everyone what your resolution was. Back then, it was better grades, to be better at sports or the one you didn’t say out loud, to get with that hot chick in your chemistry class.

As an adult, people join the gym on January 1st, go on some extreme juice cleanse bullshit diet or decide to do some sort of extreme behavioral modification – thinking they can completely change on an instantaneous whim like magic. Shit just isn’t that simple. Well, joining a gym and staying fit is fairly simple but those who fail seem to push too hard, too fast, right out of their comfort zone – physically and mentally.

There is nothing wrong with bettering yourself. Hell, one of the key points of life and growing older, is bettering yourself. You learn from your mistakes, you make changes, you adapt and you improve as a human being and at finding what you’re good at, what you enjoy and who you truly are. That is why growing older is truly fucking awesome.

And yeah, it is January 3rd, as I write this. Maybe I’m a few days late at reaching out to people regarding the New Year’s resolution hysteria. But then again, many of you may have already faltered at your annual promise already. That’s fine. Fuck it. Don’t hate yourself over it. Instead, be a bit more realistic because maybe you went hardcore out the gate and immediately crashed into a wall.

Think about the end result of what you want to achieve. If it is weight loss, getting diesel or something else, think about the end result of your ideal goal achieved. Forget about the time, the amount of work involved and trying to take it all on at once. Make it your decision to reach that goal, no matter how long it takes and at what pace. If you fall today, move forward tomorrow. Starting at an extreme rate usually has an equally or greater extreme rate of crashing and burning. Know your pace and don’t kill yourself over it.

Again, I don’t do the whole New Year’s resolution thing. I make goals around the beginning of the year that I want to achieve. They aren’t resolutions and they have nothing to do with it being a new year. It just so happens that New Year’s Day is just after the holidays and my birthday, a period of time where I am the furthest away from being a master of diet and fitness. In fact, I am pretty much drunk from Thanksgiving till around January 2nd or so. It just so happens that the beginning of the calendar year is a good time to hit the reset button.

Anyway, I look at where I am, decide where I want to go and I work towards it. I don’t try to hike twenty miles on a mountain trail on day one; I start slow and work my way up. I approach it realistically. If I ran out of my house, hungover but gung ho, in an effort to scale mountains and epic distances, I’d probably fall down the side of the mountain sliding down a trail of my own bourbon-scented puke.

If you’ve already quit, get back on that damned horse and get back to it. Just slow your roll. Exist in reality, you aren’t a superhero.

My time for getting my shit together is tomorrow morning. I always start on my first day back to work after the holidays. Besides, who wants to actually start their “new you” bullshit on New Year’s Day, hungover and fiending for a bag of McMuffins and a bottle of Excedrin Migraine?

As long as you keep working towards your goal, you are succeeding. And failure today doesn’t mean failure tomorrow. Unless you continue to choose failure.

Retro Relapse: Business Assholes, Volume 3: Time Wasters

RETRO RELAPSE is a series of older articles from various places where I used to write before Talking Pulp.

*Written in 2014.

It is time for the third installment of my business series. In part one, I talked about chronic interrupters. In part two, I talked about respect. This round, I am going to discuss time wasters.

Also, this isn’t just advice on how to behave in business, it is advice on how to behave in life because usually bad traits in one, carry over into the other.

One thing I am a big fan of is productivity, whether in business or in life. You can’t move forward in the best way possible if you don’t master productivity and even more importantly, time management. Today in business, this concept seems lost, at least in my dealings with people in my industry – an industry that is struggling, which should push people towards being on the ball. It doesn’t, for the most part. However, I’m going to send a shout out to those few who actually hustle and run hard with that ball.

I’ve always been a firm believer in being punctual. In fact, I consider being on time as being fifteen minutes early. That’s just me but it is a good rule to live buy for several reasons. One, you make sure that you are actually there on time and depending upon what you need to be on time for, you can get a head start. Two, it is a show of respect to those you need to be on time for, whether it is a job interview, a business meeting, a movie or just meeting a friend for a drink. Three, it shows that you are a responsible adult in control of yourself and respectful of others and the task at hand. Four, it’s just fucking courteous.

Lack of respect for punctuality is a big pet peeve of mine. Chronically late people piss me off. The reason being, is what they tell me by their behavior is that they have no respect for me or my time, they are unreliable and a mess of a person, they don’t take anything seriously and they’re self-absorbed. In my daily work life, I see plenty of people who are regularly late. Management does nothing to combat this other than bitch amongst themselves and ultimately, the bad habits continue. Where I work is lead by very passive aggressive administrators but that is a topic for another article.

The thing is, even if these chronically late people are good workers otherwise, if I were to one day start my own company and they came to me for a job, I would have no interest in hiring them. You should be ready to work and ready to go from the moment you clock in, on time mind you. Unforeseen things happen from time to time and that is understandable. Tardiness of that sort can also be corrected by calling or sending a text stating that you’re going to be a few minutes late. The problem is, this should not be a daily or even a weekly occurrence. As an adult, people should know how long they need to get ready in the morning and how long it takes to get from home to work. I think I learned how to tell time in the first grade, just sayin’.

Other time killers are having too many meetings, unorganized meetings or meetings with people who don’t need to be there. I tend to often times find myself in meetings that encompass all three of these bad factors.

Unorganized meetings tend to run a hell of a lot longer than they need to be because people usually go in not knowing what to expect, are poorly prepared for the questions they will be asked and when everyone is all over the map in an unorganized way, you spend most of your time trying to create a sense of order where there is none. Have you ever been asked for your whole department to come to the conference room without being told why, only to be stuck in a clusterfuck of confusion because there wasn’t any insight as to what you would be discussing or a proper heads up of the meeting so you could have some prep time? It’s nice to know what is expected of you and to have all your ducks in a row before getting abruptly ripped away from your work to go under fire.

As far as meetings with people who don’t need to be there, I also experience this all too commonly. Many times, I go into a meeting and all the bosses are there. If it is a meeting about sales numbers, why does the head of shipping or the head of marketing need to be involved? If it is a meeting of new concepts for advertising and branding, why does the head accountant need to be there? If you are not discussing a matter that calls for the immediate input of someone outside the sphere of discussion, they don’t need to be there. If you determine you need them, call them in briefly or email them after. In these situations, often times you are bombarded with the two cents of someone who isn’t really qualified to speak on the matter. This doesn’t mean that outside input isn’t appreciated, as it can be valuable, but you don’t need the entire company wasting hours in a meeting regarding one department, who could be in and out of there in twenty minutes with a clear plan otherwise. Also, it is hard to develop a clear plan when over a dozen people are shouting ideas over one another (I talked about this in my article on respect – linked at the top).

The problem with having too many meetings, is that at some point, you need to stop talking and work. Nothing gets done without action and if you don’t have proper time to execute all the stuff you’ve talked about, what’s the point really? All these types of meetings are time wasters and the antithesis of productivity.

Now if you have management that practices any or all of the time wasting violations mentioned above, you have yourselves a real problem. I’ve always been a strong advocate for leading by example. If you do these things from the top of the ladder, you can damn sure expect it to trickle down and assumedly get worse the further down you go. Owners and managers are responsible for the type of culture they create in their company. If the culture is bad, they need to assess what they are doing and how it is being perceived by those they manage. If they fail to recognize that the culture is bad, they won’t stay in business very long and most likely, the good employees will move on because they don’t want to be continually subjected to their company’s culture of bullshit.

Speaking as a guy who has been upper management, middle management and the lowest guy on the totem pole, I know how the relationships between employer and employee work. I know what connects and what doesn’t and I know how bad habits from the top can poison the bottom of the well.

In the end, don’t we all want to succeed and have prosperous lives? The key to that is productivity. The killer of productivity is wasting time. And of course, I say all this to help.

Retro Relapse: Business Assholes, Volume 2: Respect My Lack of Respect

RETRO RELAPSE is a series of older articles from various places where I used to write before Talking Pulp.

*Written in 2014.

This is a follow up to my previous post, Business Assholes, Volume 1: Chronic Interrupters. I need to make this an ongoing series, as there are several different topics I want to talk about in regards to business, business relationships, leadership, work ethic, etc. This post deals with respect.

Pulling from my own experiences, I am often times in business environments where respect is demanded but it is never given. I’m not just talking management, I am talking everywhere. From the highest ranking officer down to the lowest ranking intern. Too many people are way too entitled and feel that they are deserving of the highest level of respect.

Let me start by saying that respect is important and it helps build relationships and camaraderie amongst co-workers, employees, employers, customers and everyday people. The thing is, respect needs to be mutual. What you have, or what I experience on the regular, is a slew of people that don’t really seem to understand the dynamics of respect. Respect is like love, as it is a two-way street.

Before I get into further generalizing, I should state that I do deal with the issues I am going to discuss here, within my own company. I know that others are in a much better work environment situation. However, I also know that most of my friends who I talk to, have similar experiences to mine, so this is pretty common – at least in my area.

Moving on, one example I am confronted with on a daily basis is the lack of respect shown by superiors. They have no respect for anything. Whether it is your opinion on a project, suggestions on how to improve things, your two cents in a meeting, your schedule, your needs, concerns over other office relationships or your personal life and issues. They just don’t care. They tell you they care and may say things like “We’re all family here.” Well, I was raised in a family where we showed respect and genuine concern and compassion for one another.

The problem is, they demand respect. They don’t understand the concept of what it is but they expect it. If they say jump… well, you know the rest. The point is, the old school boys’ club mentality is dying a pretty stark death in business but many can’t adjust to this, despite countless lawsuits or good people quitting on them.

They don’t understand how to build people up and why that is important. Sure, sometimes someone needs to be taken down a level but beating a horse until it’s nearly dead only to ease up long enough for it to recover a bit before beating on it some more is a pretty counterproductive way to run your company. Yet they demand respect. Why? Because they’re the big shit in charge and that’s just how the world is in their eyes.

Then there are the “you must respect me” co-workers, the ones who have a holier than thou attitude. Some either have a close connection to one of the bosses or they think by exhibiting the bad behavior they see employed by management, that they’ll move up the ladder. In many cases, they’re probably just miserable assholes.

These people are usually just caught up in their own crap and if you have to work on a shared project or approach them with a question, they cop an attitude and treat you like you’re less than shit. Of course, like the bosses mentioned above, you had better respect them or else. People like this are cancerous to a company. The problem is, management doesn’t squash their bullshit because they too have that same behavior.

In addition to these two types of respect-deficient office people, there is also the low level shithead with a god complex. Most of the time these are interns or newer employees who haven’t paid any sort of dues but think that they’re entitled to the perks and benefits of long-standing employees. They also show little-to-no respect for pretty much everyone above them. These people haven’t been in the workforce long enough to know anything. I blame their shitty professors, shitty parents and in some cases, the apparent lack of real management and leadership in the companies where they are able to continue their bullshit.

The point of running through all these examples is to show the bad behavior, bad attitudes and general misunderstanding of what respect is in many office environments. A company can’t expect to succeed at its highest level if these types of shenanigans are the norm. Reason being, you can’t get the best out of your employees if they aren’t happy.

Happiness in your job is a hell of a motivator and generally people aren’t happy if you beat them down and mistreat them. The “cogs in a machine” business mentality has always been one of destruction and failure. It can only sustain itself so long and the world is changing despite the iron fist of old school business ruling for so long. The most successful companies in the world right now are the ones that were formed as the antithesis to the old outdated way.

If a business owner wants their business to be as successful as it can possibly be, they need to understand that it starts with creating a good environment for your employees. Happiness is key and that comes from paying people fairly, paying attention to what they are doing for the company, making them feel like part of the team, treating them as a valuable asset and building them up. All these things I just mentioned are a part of respect. Without it on both sides, a business will never be what it can be.